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Who Were You Nice To Today? Pay It Forward!

Who Were You Nice To Today?  Pay It Forward!

Thank you Ralph Gorgoglione for your considerate nudge and encouragement from Russel Ray for helping us be accountable for our actions in the activerain community by starting the "Pay it forward accountability group."

When we take the time to write down an act of kindness, we not only help ourselves think about being and keydoing good, we are showing others the way by example! Being kind to our neighbors, in my humble opinion, is the key to "world peace."  We have to help and be kind to one another to progress.

The concept of "pay it forward" exemplifies the ethical practice of living "The Golden Rule".  Most faiths has some version of "treating others the way you would want to be treated" as it is a universal concept in doing good.

Mike McCann wrote a post this past week which was another wake up call to be alert to people in need.  After reading his post I put jumper cables in my car "survival kit" to be able to help others in time of need as the weather changes.   Mike's post "Would you help someone parked in front of the city library if they needed their car jump-started" explains what kind of a wonderful person Mike is and how he pays it forward. 

So Who Was I Nice To Today and how did I pay it forward? 

I learned a lesson to come forward faster to "pay it forward" last year while waiting in a holiday mailing line at the post office.  I watched a man have to take his package back as he had used a "re-cycled" priority box to package his gift but wanted to send it regular mail. Someone had mailed him something in the priority box, he reused the box to mail his Christmas gift and the post office clerk would not let him do that.  He had to pay priority rates even when using a re-cycled box.  He did not have the extra 2 dollars so was going to have to go home and put brown paper on the box to be able to use it and send it regular mail rates.  I kick myself for NOT stepping up and giving him the additional $2.00 to mail his package.  By the time I had my "self talk" it was too late and he was gone.

Lesson learned.  Now I am observant to people in any line and can step up to help when needed.  Yesterday, I was at our local Williams, Arizona post office and saw a woman looking at the mailing envelopes.  She was asking the clerk how much they were.  She counted the coins in her pocket and she did not have enough.  I did not have to think twice this time and offered to pay for the envelope for her.  She was thrilled and I was thrilled as I did not have to think about being good, I just did it. 

Thank you again Ralph Gorgoglione for helping us all make the world a better place by helping each other and truly "loving our neighbor" by paying it forward.   Personal growth, giving and the paying it forward concept is one of the dots that need to be connected to create balance in life!

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Comment balloon 25 commentsCarra Riley & Declan Kenyon • October 16 2010 03:05PM

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Well, I can't say that I have had the opportunity to "pay it forward" yet but I did have an embarrassing moment where I did the right thing :)  

I took my 14 month old with me to do some quick seasonal shopping.  I was about to put him in the car and realized I had some items left in the stroller from Hobby Lobby and didn't pay for them!!!  So, I loaded up the baby in the car seat, drove back to the store and told them how embarrassed I was.  It was only $2.59 but it's the right thing to do.  They certainly appreciated it and it would have haunted me for the rest of my life!

Maybe doing the right and moral thing will inspire someone else so it could be a PIF moment!

Posted by Tricia Hoffmann (Your Home Free) over 9 years ago

I was nice to my mother in law today...

have a great day Carra!

Posted by Joshua Zargari, MJ Decorators Workshop (MJ Decorators Workshop LI staging and home decorating) over 9 years ago

Tricia ~  What a wonderful story!  I just got a 2nd mic for my new Kodak Zi8 camera.  We ordered it over the internet and were going to London the end of Sept. and needed the mic for some interviews. My husband called and they sent another one as the 1st one never arrived.  We got it before the trip.  Now 3 weeks later the 1st one shows up so we will be sending it back.. you are right... we inspire each other and when we read it... I think it helps the conscious mind to process and PIF too! 

Joshua ~  Being nice to mother-in-laws is a great behavior trait.  I just became a mother-in-law on 10.10.10 so will see how nice he is to me :)   You have a great day too!

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 9 years ago

Carra: That is one of the things I like about the  Pay it Forward Group.  I think it will make us more open to those opportunities..perhaps it will become more automatic.  Have a great day!

Posted by Kathryn Maguire, Serving Chesapeake, Norfolk, VA Beach (GreatNorfolkHomes.com (757) 560-0881) over 9 years ago

Carra,

Being nice puts you in a good mood, and puts a smile on your face. Other people like to do business with people who look happy.

Brian

Posted by Brian Madigan, LL.B., Broker (RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage (Toronto)) over 9 years ago

Kathryn ~   I agree,  I think talking about doing good for others keeps that activity in the "front of the mind awareness" mode and then we just do it! 

Brian ~  Smiles are great gifts and do make us feel happy :)

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 9 years ago

Carra, what a great blog; it encourages us all and I am glad to be a part of this group as well. Great story and a wonderful way to pay it forward.

Posted by Teral McDowell (Referral Patners LLC) over 9 years ago

Teral ~  Thank you so much, we appreciate having you as part of the Cosmic Cow Pie group. I hope that those reading will support Ralph with his PIF project and come post in Cosmic Cow Pie too......Tricia in comment number 1 used PIF for Pay It Forward....love it!  Just reading what others are doing to help in the world is motivating!  Thanks again to Ralph for giving us this opportunity to share! 

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 9 years ago

Carra ~ It's nice to see you back -- missed you.  Fully agree that we need to Pay It Forward as often as we're blessed to have the opportunity.

Posted by Tish Lloyd, Broker - Wilmington NC and Surrounding Beaches (BlueCoast Realty Corporation) over 9 years ago

Carra:  I agree with the sentiments expressed here completely.  Paying it Forward should be a habit really ... a daily habit.  There is only one thing that I can take issue with or find hard to believe within this post.  And that is that you had to have a "gentle nudge" to perform kind acts.  Sorry ... I just don't believe that ... not for a minute.

Gene

Posted by Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi, 708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience (NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656) over 9 years ago

Carra, great post and I agree with you and especially like your last sentence..."giving and the paying it forward concept is one of the dots that need to be connected to create balance in life!"    AMEN

Posted by Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®, Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate (Vision Quest Realty) over 9 years ago

Howdy and evening to you Carra

Carra,
this sure is one mighty fine blog post. It sure is always a good thing for folks to help out in their community, and even in near by communities when were they can.

Have a good one
Dale in New Hampshire

Posted by Dale Baker, New Hampshire Relocation Real Estate Information (Baker Energy Audits and Commercial Properties Inspections) over 9 years ago

Carra, what a nice thing to do.  THis group and the posts generated definitly make us more sensative and responsive to the opportunities out there to pay it forward.

Posted by Lora "Leah" Stern 914-772-4528, Real Estate Salesperson (Coldwell Banker, 170 N Main Street, New City NY 10956) over 9 years ago

Tish ~  Thanks for missing me :)  We all help one another when we share like Ralph has suggested.

Gene ~  You are a very special cyber friend!  Ralph did nudge us to be accountable!  I do think that way most of the time and by sharing openly we will all share more light together!

Rebecca ~  Balance is a quality I think most of us cherish! Thank you.

Dale ~  our reach is unlimited and there is no end to the good we can do.  Thank you

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 9 years ago

Lora ~ I think it will be very invigorating to read the posts here and see what people are doing to help others.  Thanks for sharing.

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 9 years ago

Carra - I think it is a great thing to do to pay it forward. I think it makes us better people all around.

Posted by Sharon Paxson, Newport Beach Real Estate (Compass) over 9 years ago

Carra, This is a great reflective story of how you learned by what you did not do and because it nagged at you … your hyper-awareness causes you to act without thinking. Thank you for helping the person in the post office.

Posted by Kathleen Daniels, San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist (KD Realty - 408.972.1822) over 9 years ago

Thank you for this post. It helps us to be more aware and ready to act.   

Posted by JoAnn Moore, Home Loans in Delaware (The Mortgage Market of Delaware) over 9 years ago

Hi Carra,

Its so true what you said in your blog. Russel Ray is nice great person to have as friend and very good as support person for a AC.

 

Posted by John Puplava, ABC Home Inspections,L.L.C. (ABC Home Inspections,L.L.C.) over 9 years ago

We should all be nice and positive to every person that we are in contact with...

Posted by Joshua Zargari, MJ Decorators Workshop (MJ Decorators Workshop LI staging and home decorating) over 9 years ago

Sharon ~  you are so right!

Kathleen ~  when we really think about our actions we modify behavior.. so many time we feel like we are on auto pilot!  This is much better to be watchful of what is going on around us!  thank you.

JoAnne  ~  I think this is Ralph's plan.

John ~  Russel is one of many great people in AR.. I am proud to have him as a friend.

Joshua ~  That should be the goal!  Simple and easy!  Just be good!

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 9 years ago

Carra, I can't even begin to think of the number of times I've reached into my pocket and tossed coins on the counter for a person in front of me that was coming up short on a purchase. My motives being very selfish, however, as I knew it would have taken longer for them to decide what they were not going to buy and have the clerk do the crediting, than to just toss out some pocket change and get out of there. Not exactly the spirit of the action.

Posted by Ed Silva, Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally (RE/MAX Professionals, CT 203-206-0754 ) over 9 years ago

Ed ~  You are such a hoot!  I can just see you throwing out money to move the line along..... I know deep down inside you are also doing it to be the kind person you are behind that humorous front :)

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 9 years ago

I don’t know much about Ralph’s background, but I do know a lot about Russel since he’s been my husband for almost 16 years. He was raised to help others and often helps people in situations that I would never have thought about.

Posted by Jim Frimmer, Realtor & CDPE, Mission Valley specialist (HomeSmart Realty West) over 9 years ago

Carra - Your post reminded me of why I used to carry jumper cables all the time.

We had a barber in town whose shop was next door to the grocery store. He had a really cool classic car, but for whatever reason, the battery died with regularity.

This was back in the days when I was running a real estate office and my habit was to leave the office, head to the grocery store, and then go home.

The barber had purchased his house through me, so I guess he thought he knew me well enough to ask a favor. So... he would wait and watch for me to arrive at the grocery store so he could come out and ask me to help start his car.

 

Posted by Marte Cliff, Your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) over 9 years ago

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