Cosmic Cow Pie: Connecting the Dots


You ARE like those you hang out with! Time to upgrade?

Joeann Fossland has hit the ball out of the park with her incredible ideas all tied in this neat package!

Hope you enjoy reading it as much as I did.

A few things for the "to-do" list!

Thanks Joeann, GREAT post! 

It DOES Make a difference who you spend time with! You've heard me (and many others!) say "what you focus on expands". If you surround yourself news and people who give you more evidence of how tough it's easy to buy into excuses for your own results. If you want to attract and create more to be positive, happy and grateful about ... your thinking and positive emotional state are the best tools you have to start with. Is it time to upgrade your Rolodex and your experiences? Have you outgrown some of the people you hang out with? Or are the folks to spend time with each day inspiring and encouraging?

In 2010, I am personally passionate about what I am calling Social PartneringTM. I'll be writing a series of articles over the next few months about how to use Social PartneringTM and offering ways for you to use the concept to be more successful this year! I am kicking this off here and there will be more on this month's free Fossland's Forum on building more referrals by building your social partner team.

From expansion of your strategic partners to participation with positive people or mastermind groups, I see the opportunity to the average agent to excel and the extraordinary agent to soar this year. With social media tools and Web 2.0, our ability to reach out and use our good relationship social capital to enhance the value we bring clients and customers is expanded in miraculous ways. That doesn't mean we won't bring the online offline-in fact, that's the point! A powerful combination of expanding your previous reach and adding the new is going to bring happiness to those who master the skill. Our relationships then bring value to us! And, I know many of you are very, very good at you already are a leg up here!

And, this is really where it all starts. You know that your attitude is so important to your success and who you surround yourself with can make it easier or harder, right. Which do you want this year: easy or hard?

Jack Canfield, the author and motivational speaker, has shared a personal story. He had become very successful, using the principles he learned from Clement Stone and the teachings of Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, (this book is still available free here). He says he had grown his yearly income to $1,000,000 and it was stable and steady there. He set, however, a goal of $10,000,000 but his income stayed stuck at $1M. As he ruminated about why he was stuck, someone asked him what the average income was of those in his mastermind group. This was his "ah ha" moment as he realized they were all making $1M too! Now, not a bad a group that most of us could benefit from hanging out with, but not a fit for his expanded dreams.

Have you expanded your dreams and not matched new partners, friends and supporters to those NEW visions? Or have you given up and become resigned that you can have what you really want because of some outside influences, like the economy or some other personal excuse? There WERE people having their very best year ever last year! Were you in that group? If you, hooray for you! If not, now is the time to decide what you really want in 2010. Old strategies will not get you there. It's a brave, new world. And one filled with opportunity! How amazingly fortunate we are to be living here in the United States with so many freedoms to create our lives.

Here are some other actions that will help:

  • Limit your exposure to the media and the "bad" news
  • Add some daily inspiring messages to your life.
  • Make a list of your 5 closest friends-do they reflect and support your dreams?
  • Find one or two new friends to hang out with some more that are inspiring
  • Buddy with someone who is as inspiring and committed as you want to be and become accountability partners
  • Form or join a mastermind group and meet regularly to support each other
  • Begin and end each day counting your blessings!

Put yourself in a place this year where you get the support and encouragement you need to stay focused, aligned and productive.

For 2010, take in less negative input and find the good every day and I promise you it would feel better. It may sound simple, but the best actions usually are. And, it is much easier if the people around you are aligned with the same thinking!

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Comment balloon 12 commentsCarra Riley & Declan Kenyon • February 03 2010 11:11AM


This should be a featured post...excellent thoughts, here.    Am looking forward to your articles on "social partnering", too.  

Posted by Li Read, Caring expertise...knowledge for you! (Sea to Sky Premier Properties (Salt Spring)) over 10 years ago

The one thing I can't do (I've tried) is limit myself watching the news.  I don't stop worrying/thinking about it just because I don't watch.  Plus I feel it's my duty to stay informed if I'm going to be complaining and I'm going to be complaining.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 10 years ago

This is an excellent re-blog.  She's got it down pat!  The Social Partnering is what we're all about - and it just keeps expanding and expanding!

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten Arizona's Top Banana!, 602-380-4886 (HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000) over 10 years ago

true that gal pal !! gotta love the view..thanks

Posted by GARY DIGIORGIO -Denver- Arvada -Westminster, REOptions LLC (THE DIGIORGIO GROUP /(303) 898 - GARY (4279)) over 10 years ago

Li ~  Isn't "social partnering" what it is all about!  Fun to be sharing it with fun people!  I did feature the post in Cosmic Cow Pie that Joeann did originally and it went to the front page too!  We all saw the same thing... thanks.

Tammy ~  I'm sure glad we hang out together!

Anna ~  Joeann is one smart cookie! 

Gary ~ The view is fantastic!  and so are you! 

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 10 years ago

You are who you hang out with! That's why I had to start hanging out at ActiveRain beginning July 2008 because the place where I had been hanging out for five years had become so negative, foul-mouthed, bigoted, anti-Semitic, and just flat-out despicable. ActiveRain is so much more Pleasant, Positive, Personable, Polite, and Professional.

Posted by Not a real person over 10 years ago

Carra thesummary of what you want to do and who you choose to do it with come together for me around March 21, which hopefully will be opening day, Fore!

Posted by Ed Silva, Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally (RE/MAX Professionals, CT 203-206-0754 ) over 10 years ago

Russel ~  Activerain does Rock!  You are one of those fun kind of people to hang out with.

Ed ~  I do not think we will have golf in Williams this year... the snow has been on the course since Thanksgiving... it is still about 6 inches deep... so I guess I better start hanging out with people like you so I have some hope that the snow will melt and March 21st we are out there having fun!  See... I feel better already!   

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 10 years ago

This is so true! I have limited myself for years on "bad" news, negative programming and have had to limit my time with friends that do not have my same mind set of staying positive. It really has made a difference in how I look at things!

Posted by Stephanie Reynolds, East County San Diego Homes 619-838-4408 (Integrity First Financial Group, Inc. ) over 10 years ago

Stephanie ~ It really comes down to a disciple of thought and it does take work. Good to hang out with people who process the same way!  If you come visit in Havasu with Heather we will have to get together! 

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 10 years ago

Carra, Thanks for the re-blog! You have some great comments here and I love the positive energy....something you EXUDE!!!! 2010 is going to be an amazing year! Glad you are in my life this year!

Posted by Joeann Fossland, Master Certified Coach to Motivated Agents (Advantage Solutions Group) over 10 years ago


I love the fact we can re-blog great posts because good content, is good content.  It is wonderful to be able to give the author credit and share the knowledge with another group of connections/friends.  I love your new term "Social Partnering tm" It makes sense of what we should be doing with one another out in the Cosmic Cow Pie of cyberspace.

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 10 years ago